Ladies, let me talk to you for a minute. You know we (your husbands, fiancées, boyfriends) love you, but I want to address one troubling issue that I’m sure most men can relate to.
Let’s start by painting a picture.
Me: Behbeh, I’m ordering some food. What would you like?
Her: I’m not hungry. I don’t want anything.
The confirmation has been made very clear. Only one of us will be eating this food. I order my food and I am mentally rubbing my hands together in anticipation of my meal. I have made plans for this meal. I intend to enjoy every single bite of it myself since I have been informed that this will be a meal for one. The food arrives. I open it up, prepare to dive in, and then a fork (or spoon or hand) slides perplexingly out of nowhere and onto my plate…
What’s the idea behind the concept of taking a bite of our burger or taking a piece of our chicken or simply indulging in our meal when you vehemently replied “I’m not hungry” to the question “I’m ordering some food; what would you like?” Every time this happens to me, I remember an episode of F.R.I.E.N.D.S where the fictional character Joey Tribbiani states that he doesn’t share his food. This becomes an issue for more than one woman in the episode, but I can completely empathize and I know I’m not alone. Some men have been known to get incredibly upset in such instances.
There are variations of this atrocious act. I have been told by some friends that their woman will say “I’m on a diet so I’ll have the salad” and then attack his meal once it’s laid in front of him. In that moment just put yourself in the place of your partner. Imagine just how irritating that can be. Based on my experiences and that of the people around me, I can safely say that men seldom eat off their partners’ plate. I say seldom because it was recently brought to my attention that there’s a man who does that to his wife. (To that man I say Daaaamnn you hurting us all man, STOP THAT!)
Now don’t get me wrong. This article does not pertain to a case where she’s hungry and you happen to have some food. By all means share that. I can even understand taking a bit from your significant other’s plate when you’re at a restaurant. You’re curious about what their food tastes like since it differs from yours, but making it a habit is where a line must be drawn.
I have pondered this deeply and I don’t think this is a matter of selfishness, but rather of a person being cheated of their sense of fulfillment after great anticipation. In most cases, when a man orders a meal, he has made a personal decision to be satisfied and consume all the food on his plate.