Spare the rod and spoil the child is an adage that appears in the Bible (Proverbs 13:24). What does this mean to you?
What is acceptable and what is not?
Some of us grew up being spanked as kids. Some claim it made them stronger and others have chosen new age methods.
What other methods can we use to discipline our kids?
Comments from @everythingbaby whatsapp forum:
Comment 1 : I spank mine cos sometimes they misbehave intentionally.
Comment 2 : It’s just important to be calm. And not do it out of anger
Comment 3: U’re the same person who will feel sad by their tears and have to treat them if they get hurt. It’s always good to do everything in moderation
Comment 4 : Nothing wrong with a few spanks to serve as a reminder next time they think of being naughty but ain’t nobody else touching my baby. That’s a No No. And I won’t do that to somebody else’s
Comment 5 : Nothing wrong with spanking. Most of us were spanked as kids. And here we are! But I am trying the no spanking method now. The Montessori way of doing things and so far it works.
Here are some articles worth reading.
In the article THE TRUTH ABOUT SPARE THE ROD AND SPOIL THE CHILD
By NIRVANA REGINALD GAYLE
“First of all the aforementioned “rod” is not the rod of a stick to beat your child with, it is the rod as in “thy rod and thy staff comfort me,” the familiar refrain from the 23rd Psalm. In other places, particularly throughout all of Psalms, the rod is referred to as strength as in, “the Lord is my rod and fortress,” as mentioned in Psalm 18:2 and 31:3. Or “He is my rod and my salvation,” in Psalm 61:2 and 62:6. Throughout Genesis in particular we get references to the rod as a sceptre or staff that is carried by royalty, Pharaohs, and enlightened spiritual beings like Moses or Gods like Zeus.”
“According to Montessori Corporal Punishment is a bad way to go. Under the Corporal Punishment system the objective is basically militaristic. This system believes that the more you spank someone the less mistakes they will make and the sharper they will become. This is in contradiction to Montessori who believes the teachers job is not to instruct, direct, drill or otherwise take charge of the child. Instead the child should develop independent mastery of the subject material. By giving out Corporal Punishment you remove the childs sacred bond in the student teacher relationship. They start doing things out of fear only and that can have a bad life-long mental impact on the child.”
Many parents spank their kids for another simple reason: It stops children from doing whatever it is they’re doing. Most Parents (like me) who are against spanking in theory admit that it seems to be a particularly effective stop gap when their child is doing something dangerous.
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